Positive Body Language Women Show on a First Date

Elena Morales
5 min readJul 1, 2021


Does she like you or are you just wasting your time?

It would be a shame to waste another evening on a stale date that you know isn’t going anywhere. A date where you know you’re only sticking around to wait for a spark that won’t ignite anytime soon.

It’s the same as watching paint dry — not only is it boring, but it’s also tedious and exhausting.

That’s why you need to know if your date is interested in a romantic liaison with you (or not) so you can cut the date short and move on to the next.

If you’re curious about the female body language that signals attraction, you’ve come to the right page. We’re here to tell you if she’s showing you the green light through the preening gestures that she shows throughout your date.

“She likes me, she likes me not.”

Instead of murdering harmless flowers, find out by paying attention to your date’s body language. Having said that, here are some non-verbal cues that indicate she’s (most probably) interested in you:

1. She makes herself noticed — Back straight, shoulders pulled back, chest out, stomach tucked in, and a bright smile. Women do this to emphasize their physical appearance. If you see her do all these, she’s clearly putting in the effort to make a good impression on your first date.

You might even catch her constantly fixing her hair, makeup, and dress from time to time. It’s because she’s conscious of her looks and wants to appear more attractive to you.

Don’t misinterpret it as insecurity, she’s merely trying to grab your attention and have it focus solely on her. Consider it a good sign that she’s into you right off the bat.

2. She tilts her head and bats her eyelashes — Body language experts have coined this ultimate flirting technique as “the classic Marilyn Monroe gesture.” Whether she knows about this tactic or not, it’s quite easy to do and quite easy to take notice of.

As revealed by behavioral investigator, Vanessa Van Edwards, a lot of women do this gesture (more or less) subconsciously. She explained that it’s a natural reflex driven by hormones. The goal is to attract a mate, so you have to make yourself look and feel attractive.

If you see her trying to pull a ‘Marilyn Monroe’ on you, it’s clear she’s trying to seduce you. It’s safe to say she’s into you.

3. She maintains intense eye contact — You’ve heard of the saying, “The eyes are the window to a person’s soul.” Well, numerous body language experts seem to agree.

Allan and Barbara Pease, authors of the book “The Definitive Book of Body Language: The Hidden Meaning Behind People’s Gestures and Expressions,” explained that maintaining eye contact is the first step of the attraction process.

As discussed in the book, women tend to lock eyes with men they find attractive. They will hold their gaze for a minimum of five seconds before shying away. This will happen several times during the date, and once men realize the constant stares, the flirting process naturally follows.

The bottom line is, if you keep locking eyes, it’s a good indicator that you’re both attracted to one another.

4. She points her feet towards you — Sounds weird, but there’s elaborate research that backs this claim.

To give you an example, psychologist and FBI agent Joe Navarro in his book titled “What Everybody is Saying” has stressed the importance of feet and leg position in deciphering human behavior and thinking. Hence, if you’re wondering if the girl you’re on a date with is interested in you or not, pay attention to her feet and legs.

If her feet are pointed towards you (especially if it’s her dominant foot), it’s most likely she’s interested in you or engaged in your conversation. On the other hand, if her feet are pointed elsewhere, it’s an indication that she may not be as engaged as you would like her to be with you.

5. She initiates physical contact — Whether it’s subtle or aggressive, light or hard touches here and there are clear signs of interest.

As revealed in Allan and Barbara Pease’s book, women will look for every opportunity to initiate physical contact with the man they’re interested in. It could be a light touch on the arm, an accidental (or intentional) leg brush, or a quick shoulder to shoulder lean.

According to these body language experts, “…what’s being created is a level of intimacy.” A quick leg brush is considered “a medium level of intimacy,” and a direct touch on the hand or arm is “a higher level of intimacy.”

When a touch is made and succeeded by another, two things are accomplished: It’s assured that the other person is okay with being touched and they’re okay with it being used as a sign to let them know that it was done intentionally.

In other words, it’s an obvious sign that she’s interested in you.

6. She mirrors your movements — It’s a sign she’s attracted to you when she’s starting to copy your hand gestures, your posture, your quirky mannerisms, or your energy level. There’s a word for it — it’s called “mirroring.”

From the words of Holly Schiff, a clinical psychologist, “If someone is attracted to you and comfortable with you, they subconsciously start to adopt some of your mannerisms and behaviors. They want to feel more aligned with you, so mimicking the things you do is a way to show you they are engaged in the interaction and creating a bond.” Simply put, it’s a clear indicator of interest.

Watch out for the above-mentioned positive body language. If your date is showing multiple signs that she’s interested, then it’s okay to relax, get comfortable, and enjoy your time together. Otherwise, cut the date short and spend the remainder of your time elsewhere with someone who is interested in you.

Life is too short, so don’t waste your time.

Unspoken Attraction

A woman doesn’t have to say that she’s into you for you to know she’s interested.

Most of the time, her actions will speak louder than her words. That’s why knowing positive body language and being aware of it is useful when dating. It saves you time figuring out whether she’s attracted to you or not.



Elena Morales

Matchmaking Advisor for Medellin Women at https://medellinwomen.com